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Basic Instinct

If it feels like work in the beginning, cut your losses and move on.  In other words,

Lesson # 18:  Trust Your Instincts

People rarely change and you must remember that it’s a package deal.  Either love who you’re with or be with someone else.  You’ll be happier in the end–I promise.


Date Like You Mean It

Hello, ladies (and gents).  I’ve noticed a trend among singles lately and it’s this:  people say that that they simply “don’t have the time to date”.  This brings me to the next rule:

Lesson # 17:  Date Like It’s Your Job

I say this because of the expression, “Your priorities shall reveal themselves.”  If getting married (or finding a lifetime companion) is a priority for you, act like it.  Schedule time for clubs, dates, and social outings into your agenda if you have to.  Also, let everyone you know in your social and professional circle that you are “single and looking to meet more people.”  Use the power of networking.  Work will still be there after you find The One.  Remember, no one on his/her deathbed wishes he/she spent more time at the office.

3 Step Program

I had lunch with a friend over the weekend and she said something that I hear again and again from women:  “I just don’t have the time to date.  By the time I get off work, I am so exhausted that all I want to do is stay home.  The last thing I want to do is go on an ‘interview'”.  I must say that when I was single, I felt the same way.   That is, until I decided to change the way I went about dating.  The solution?

Lesson # 7:  3 Step Program

In addition to (1)  Changing your paradigm (per the topics of this blog), make it a point to do the following every week:

(2)  One date

(3)  One group activity

That’s it, folks.  Easy peasy.  Okay–so it might not be so easy (in the beginning, anyway).  But as I’ve told my sister, if you can make time to go to the gym, yoga studio, mall (etc.), you can make time to go on one date a week.  Rain or shine.

Ideas for group activities include speed dating, networking events (although dating colleagues is highly discouraged), running clubs, charity events, cooking classes, church or temple, etc.  The key is to be involved in activities that you enjoyConvergence (doing something you enjoy while accomplishing a goal).  This way, if you meet someone, great.  If you don’t, you’ll have enjoyed yourself, anyway.

Lather, rinse, and repeat!

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