I had lunch with a friend over the weekend and she said something that I hear again and again from women: “I just don’t have the time to date. By the time I get off work, I am so exhausted that all I want to do is stay home. The last thing I want to do is go on an ‘interview'”. I must say that when I was single, I felt the same way. That is, until I decided to change the way I went about dating. The solution?
Lesson # 7: 3 Step Program
In addition to (1) Changing your paradigm (per the topics of this blog), make it a point to do the following every week:
(2) One date
(3) One group activity
That’s it, folks. Easy peasy. Okay–so it might not be so easy (in the beginning, anyway). But as I’ve told my sister, if you can make time to go to the gym, yoga studio, mall (etc.), you can make time to go on one date a week. Rain or shine.
Ideas for group activities include speed dating, networking events (although dating colleagues is highly discouraged), running clubs, charity events, cooking classes, church or temple, etc. The key is to be involved in activities that you enjoy. Convergence (doing something you enjoy while accomplishing a goal). This way, if you meet someone, great. If you don’t, you’ll have enjoyed yourself, anyway.
Lather, rinse, and repeat!