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Fight Like a Girl

A friend called last night and we discussed a fight she was having with her boyfriend.  From what I know about him, he’s an upstanding man and a “guy’s guy”.  Long story short, she mistakenly assumed that he was ignoring her when his phone was turned off (as he works in a classified environment that requires all phones to be turned off during work hours).  As I pointed out, ignoring someone is passive aggressive and, so far, this guy’s “fighting style” has never been catty or passive aggressive.  Also, people’s fighting styles are pretty consistent. Unless you’re dating and/or marrying someone of the same sex, the verdict is:

Lesson # 16:  Say No to Catty Men

Why?  Because one woman in the house is enough (again, unless you’re with someone of the same sex).  “Men” who are catty or passive aggressive are not really men.  Rather, they are boys in men’s bodies.  As a woman, you want (and need) someone who compliments you and is of generous heart (cattiness and pettiness are the opposite of being generous).  So, again, ladies–actions (or behaviors, in this case) do speak louder than words.  Keep your eyes open and observe and you shall receive your answer (as to whether he is worthy of your giving him the best years of your life).

About Time

Lesson # 14:  Be With Someone Who Won’t Give You Heartburn

Finding Mr. (or Mrs.) Right has another benefit–aging well.  According to an article in Psychology Today, marriage significantly affects the long-term happiness for women more so than men.  As such, one must be extremely choosy when selecting one’s partner for life.  Aging isn’t just a physical manifestation of one’s biological condition but also one’s state of mind.  So, gals (and guys), finding Mr. (or Mrs.) Right may just be the fountain of youth.

Keep Calm and Carry On

Sherry Argov was on point when she said that most men tend to think in a logical manner.  What does this mean to you?  This means that rather than engage in circular reasoning (as many women do, myself included), it’s best to be straight-forward, matter-of-fact, and logical when making a case for why you are upset when you and your significant other have an argument and/or disagreement.  This method tends to nip things in the bud fairly quickly.

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