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Fight Like a Girl

A friend called last night and we discussed a fight she was having with her boyfriend.  From what I know about him, he’s an upstanding man and a “guy’s guy”.  Long story short, she mistakenly assumed that he was ignoring her when his phone was turned off (as he works in a classified environment that requires all phones to be turned off during work hours).  As I pointed out, ignoring someone is passive aggressive and, so far, this guy’s “fighting style” has never been catty or passive aggressive.  Also, people’s fighting styles are pretty consistent. Unless you’re dating and/or marrying someone of the same sex, the verdict is:

Lesson # 16:  Say No to Catty Men

Why?  Because one woman in the house is enough (again, unless you’re with someone of the same sex).  “Men” who are catty or passive aggressive are not really men.  Rather, they are boys in men’s bodies.  As a woman, you want (and need) someone who compliments you and is of generous heart (cattiness and pettiness are the opposite of being generous).  So, again, ladies–actions (or behaviors, in this case) do speak louder than words.  Keep your eyes open and observe and you shall receive your answer (as to whether he is worthy of your giving him the best years of your life).

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Follow Through

It’s been quite awhile since I have updated this blog and wanted you all to know that I have not forgotten about you.  In addition to giving my sister and gal pals dating advice, I’ve also been busy with a few projects (details to come).  Without delay, here’s our next guideline.

Lesson # 13:  Follow Through on Promises and Threats

One of the cornerstones of maintaining relationships is one’s ability to consistently follow through on promises.  Whether it’s a mother following through on grounding a child for misbehavior or an office manager following through on firing an employee for unprofessional behavior, follow through is required for respect and credibility.  In other words, show that you mean business.  Doing this will minimize your being taken advantage of and foster a relationship based on mutual respect.

Keep Calm and Carry On

Sherry Argov was on point when she said that most men tend to think in a logical manner.  What does this mean to you?  This means that rather than engage in circular reasoning (as many women do, myself included), it’s best to be straight-forward, matter-of-fact, and logical when making a case for why you are upset when you and your significant other have an argument and/or disagreement.  This method tends to nip things in the bud fairly quickly.

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