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Fight Like a Girl

A friend called last night and we discussed a fight she was having with her boyfriend.  From what I know about him, he’s an upstanding man and a “guy’s guy”.  Long story short, she mistakenly assumed that he was ignoring her when his phone was turned off (as he works in a classified environment that requires all phones to be turned off during work hours).  As I pointed out, ignoring someone is passive aggressive and, so far, this guy’s “fighting style” has never been catty or passive aggressive.  Also, people’s fighting styles are pretty consistent. Unless you’re dating and/or marrying someone of the same sex, the verdict is:

Lesson # 16:  Say No to Catty Men

Why?  Because one woman in the house is enough (again, unless you’re with someone of the same sex).  “Men” who are catty or passive aggressive are not really men.  Rather, they are boys in men’s bodies.  As a woman, you want (and need) someone who compliments you and is of generous heart (cattiness and pettiness are the opposite of being generous).  So, again, ladies–actions (or behaviors, in this case) do speak louder than words.  Keep your eyes open and observe and you shall receive your answer (as to whether he is worthy of your giving him the best years of your life).

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Junk in the Trunk

I’m not going to make this a “lesson” or “rule” but one thing I’ve observed through both experience and watching friends is that men who are medium to chubby to larger build tend to make better husbands.  Why?  They tend to be less judgmental and more accommodating.

Men who are very physically fit (especially those who are obsessed with looking the part and “gym rats”) tend to be more critical simply based on the fact they hold themselves to a higher standard of conventional-fit-appearance (being slim does not necessarily equal to being healthy but that’s another topic).  And, in turn, expect the same if not more from their partners.  Something to think about.

 

Follow Through

It’s been quite awhile since I have updated this blog and wanted you all to know that I have not forgotten about you.  In addition to giving my sister and gal pals dating advice, I’ve also been busy with a few projects (details to come).  Without delay, here’s our next guideline.

Lesson # 13:  Follow Through on Promises and Threats

One of the cornerstones of maintaining relationships is one’s ability to consistently follow through on promises.  Whether it’s a mother following through on grounding a child for misbehavior or an office manager following through on firing an employee for unprofessional behavior, follow through is required for respect and credibility.  In other words, show that you mean business.  Doing this will minimize your being taken advantage of and foster a relationship based on mutual respect.

Who’s That Girl?

I love the art and science of matchmaking.  After years of being in “relationships limbo”, I decided to inform myself by learning from insights of relationship experts such as Sherry Argov, Sherrie Schneider, and Ellen Fein.  These gurus confirmed what I knew deep in my mind and heart all along. With the help of friends and my new found (or deeply buried within me) knowledge, I implemented customized guidelines and found my very own Mr. Right. The goal of this site is to review, confirm, and encourage a paradigm shift in women and men who are seeking love in all the wrong places. Buckle up, ladies and gents, because what you’re about to learn (or review) and implement is going to change your life.

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” — Dr. Seuss

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