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There will always be exceptions and extenuating circumstances (high school or college sweethearts, family friends, etc.).  But generally, there is a one-year courtship.  Period.  If you are dating a man (and all goes well) and he does not propose in one year, throw him back in the pond.  No ifs, ands, or buts.  As mentioned in an earlier post, men know very early on whether you are “short-term only” or “long-term potential”.  My male friends have confirmed that no, most men do not require more than a year to determine whether or not they want to marry you.

What do the Taj Mahal, Mirabell Palace, and Chandor Gardens all have in common?  They were built in the name of love.  Men are capable of extraordinary feats for women they love.  It is said that a man can move mountains for the love of his life.  Therefore, it is not unreasonable for a woman to expect a proposal within one year.


Less Attitude, More Gratitude

I had a phone conversation with a dear friend last night and she informed me that she has been going through several bouts of depression.  This is a woman who is smart, pretty, tenacious, funny, and worldly (among other things).  Men as well as women adore her.  She easily makes lifelong friends wherever she goes.  I have always admired her personality and energy.  And, yet, this fabulous woman feels despair.

I bring this up because from time to time, we all need to put things into perspective (if not for others, then for ourselves).  The holiday of Passover is at the end of this month.  For those who are not familiar with the Jewish holiday, it is one that celebrates the deliverance of Jews from Egypt.  For me, Passover is symbolic of freedom and liberation not only for Jews but also for all people from injustice, poverty, disease, and other forms of despair.  It is also a time to be thankful for all that you have and know that no matter how low things seem to be in your life, there is someone who has it worse than you.  You don’t have to be Jewish to appreciate that.

Passover (and any time, really) is a wonderful time to give back to the community and help out those who are less fortunate.  The mentioned friend has so much to be thankful for and she, like so many others, needs to re-evaluate the meaning of life and know that she, at the very least, is fortunate enough to have a roof over her head, food on the table, and income from a stable job (not to mention all the other creature comforts available to her).

Only then (when you realize and appreciate how fortunate you are) can you have a shot at true happiness.  That, along with finding someone with whom to share your life, which is the whole point of this blog!

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