Marriage First, Then Career
According to Penelope Trunk, women should focus on getting married first and then build a career: “this means that it may make sense for men to work full-speed ahead on their career in their early twenties, but women cannot afford that. Women need to make time in their lives to search for a mate in the same systematic, focused way that women have been searching for careers in their early twenties. And don’t tell yourself you’re waiting until you know yourself better. Getting to know yourself is a lifelong process, and after age twenty-five, waiting to get married won’t decrease your chance of divorce. The good news here is that a large body of research shows that you will gain more happiness by being married than by having a good job.” They key word here is “systematic”. Remember that. This brings us to our next guideline:
Lesson # 15: Marriage Before Career
They say that hindsight is 20/20 and I must agree with her (in a general sense). Although I doubt that if I had gotten married at age 25, it would have been with my soul mate. Sometimes, there are exceptions.