Act Your Age
When it comes to love, age is just a number. However, when it comes to dating (most of the time), age may be a critical issue. I say this because from my observations and personal experience, the following tends to hold true:
People who are non-marriageble and/or not marriage-ready should date women and men in their early 20s.
Why? The reason is simple. The parties are brought together by circumstance. A 50-year-old man who just finalized a nasty divorce is in no position to commit to any one. He may want companionship, but getting re-married is the furthest thing from his mind. Similarly, a college co-ed or a recently graduated woman in her early 20s is likely to not be on a “time line” with respect to marriage. Her primary goal at this point in her life is to build a career. Both people, at this time, agree that marriage is not a priority for them. And so, the meeting of the minds (and bodies).
I am and have always been a proponent for May-December relationships. Many cultures outside the US encourage them and/or think nothing of them. For some reason, May-December relationships still remain a taboo in this country. The bottom line: if more people were to engage in relationships such as the above, the supply of marriageble men (and women) would then increase and meet the demand of those seeking the same. Think of it as a social “food chain”. In the wild, lions prey on zebra and other mammals to keep the population “in check”. Therefore, if everyone (marriageble and non-marriageble) were to “do their part”, there would be more balance in the dating ecosystem.
What does this mean for you? If you are non-marriageble and/or know people who fall into this category, it might help to know and spread the word that there are ways to go about dating that encourage mutual agreement on expectations and intent.